"In a world that is awash in grisly tales of the sex trade and impossibly bad information about sex work and the people that do it, sometimes I’m afraid that our humor might be perceived as callous. Sometimes I think that perhaps we needed to button up and put on our serious faces to be participants in this discourse. That maybe we’d be taken more seriously if we acted more seriously. But then I realize that this is precisely the kind of capitulation that antis would love to see, because it would rob our discourse of the texture it is given by our laughter, our triumphs, and our sorrows. It would reduce us to what they are: a series of talking points with an agenda rather than a movement of diverse human experiences.

And the thing about having a movement rather than an agenda, is that it is going to move and be moved. It will not have as firm a foundation as an agenda will nor will it be as easy to build a consensus around. But its value will not be in its funding capabilities but its human dimensions, the ability to laugh over deeply disheartening experiences and to make fun of something because that is often the only power we possess in the situation. Sex work activism doesn’t need to look like a list of talking points. It can instead look like a series of simultaneously ridiculous and heartbreaking vignettes, the humor of them demonstrating their heart and the vulnerability of them demonstrating their strength."

— Lane Champagne in “The Role of Humor In Sex Worker Activism: Should We Always Be So Goddamn Hilarious?” at Tits and Sass today

Lane Champagne discusses the power of Sex Worker Twitter.

self-talk

I need to actually write some Tits and Sass posts instead of just editing other people’s work, and then from there I need to start pitching pieces elsewhere. Need to do some reading I can write about, so I’m not just performing survival calculations in my head all the time—what a wretched waste of brain space.

August blues, mama told me not to come, etc

Will write my replies to the regulars round table tomorrow morning—that at least will utilize my current heavy misandrist client angst in favor of exercising that writing muscle.

Story of my day as told in terse tweets that somehow feel less humiliating than paragraphs’ worth of exposition

(Just, gawd, couldn’t that new client have realized he’d withdrawn too many times today sometime before five minutes till our scheduled session? And of course our 11:15 PM two women session just rescheduled for Monday. 13 days for me to make rent.)

So should I get more Charlotte Russe rompers as call outfits? I never knew I NEEDED this romper/jumpsuit trend until it hit hard, but is it still *too* trendy to base a bunch of call outfits around?
- marginalutilite / { or am I Mod C?}

Ok, so _The Strain_ really sucks as both a book and a show, two  ( susanelizabethshepard and me) out of two sex worker writers agree, it’s full on hideous, but it does manage to capture the truly nightmarish scenario of being caught between vampires and cops ( who may yet be *cop vampires*, at that!)

Ok, so _The Strain_ really sucks as both a book and a show, two ( susanelizabethshepard and me) out of two sex worker writers agree, it’s full on hideous, but it does manage to capture the truly nightmarish scenario of being caught between vampires and cops ( who may yet be *cop vampires*, at that!)

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

marginalutilite:

elanormcinerney:

this pic of clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead's reaction is also a very accurate representation of how I am FEELING (thrilled) now that I am reading the vampire diaries. so, uh, very likely that it’s going to be like october 2013 (and lbr, ever since) all over again, fair warning guys etc etc

Ughhh. I dunno, I am SO GLAD the brilliance that is the show is only  *loosely* based on the muddled, bullshit mess that is the books.

OFC IT IS CATY BUT OMG HAVE YOU LOOKED AT HER WEBSITE AND HER EROTIX FANFICTION ABOUT A WORLD WHERE VAMPIRES HAVE GIANT HAREMS OF “BEAUTIES” WHO GET CHASED AND EATEN BY DRAGONS WHEN THE VAMPIRE MASTERS ARE DONE W THEM ALL ILLUSTRATED IN A MISTY LISA FRANK MYSTICAL MAGIC STYLE?!!!

UH, NO, AND, UM, WOW, DIRECT ME TO SAID EROTICA IMMEDIATELY

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

marginalutilite:

elanormcinerney:

this pic of clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead's reaction is also a very accurate representation of how I am FEELING (thrilled) now that I am reading the vampire diaries. so, uh, very likely that it’s going to be like october 2013 (and lbr, ever since) all over again, fair warning guys etc etc

Ughhh. I dunno, I am SO GLAD the brilliance that is the show is only  *loosely* based on the muddled, bullshit mess that is the books.

OFC IT IS CATY BUT OMG HAVE YOU LOOKED AT HER WEBSITE AND HER EROTIX FANFICTION ABOUT A WORLD WHERE VAMPIRES HAVE GIANT HAREMS OF “BEAUTIES” WHO GET CHASED AND EATEN BY DRAGONS WHEN THE VAMPIRE MASTERS ARE DONE W THEM ALL ILLUSTRATED IN A MISTY LISA FRANK MYSTICAL MAGIC STYLE?!!!

UH, NO, AND, UM, WOW, DIRECT ME TO SAID EROTICA IMMEDIATELY

Apparently, according to Cynthia M Blair’s  I’ve Got To Make My Livin’: Black Women’s Sex Work In Turn of the Century Chicago and other works on sex worker history I’ve read, in some less reputable Victorian brothels, they’d have panels built into the walls hiding a crawl space.While one of the brothel workers was entertaining a client, other staff members would climb out of their hiding place behind the panel and rifle through his clothes for money and valuables to steal.

Apparently, according to Cynthia M Blair’s  I’ve Got To Make My Livin’: Black Women’s Sex Work In Turn of the Century Chicago and other works on sex worker history I’ve read, in some less reputable Victorian brothels, they’d have panels built into the walls hiding a crawl space.While one of the brothel workers was entertaining a client, other staff members would climb out of their hiding place behind the panel and rifle through his clothes for money and valuables to steal.

Stop being so treacherously easy to identify with, Emily Gould’s book! This is how I feel about being ex-Ortho Jew. ALSO, I’m horribly afraid that I’m actually Amy, and if even Amy is thinking about learning how to drive at thirty, then I’m being truly pathetic at thirty three. 

Stop being so treacherously easy to identify with, Emily Gould’s book! This is how I feel about being ex-Ortho Jew. ALSO, I’m horribly afraid that I’m actually Amy, and if even Amy is thinking about learning how to drive at thirty, then I’m being truly pathetic at thirty three. 

OK, and I feel actively disgusted by Just Kids at this point, the bevy of references and anecdotes that add up to this inherent, very specific sort of bohemian hollowness. Also, I feel like at one point I would’ve been lapping it up.

Then again, maybe I’m being dense b/c I’m not sure when Friendship is supposed to be set—late oughts? Now? A few years ago?

Then again, maybe I’m being dense b/c I’m not sure when Friendship is supposed to be set—late oughts? Now? A few years ago?

Everything is redeemed by this sharp little observation, though. At least one civilian’s been paying attention to all those posts on “bounded intimacy” a la Elizabeth Bernstein.

Maybe I praised _Friendship_’s offhand sex worker politics too soon? Or, at least, I hope this is just what the characters think bc they’re slightly stupid that way—you don’t need implants and a fake tan to be a dancer, if you ever did—but I think that trend is solidly over, no? clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead , thestripperhatesyou , factcheck me here. Also, important distinction—sworkers are not the professionally attractive, but the professionally *sexy*.

elanormcinerney:

this pic of clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead's reaction is also a very accurate representation of how I am FEELING (thrilled) now that I am reading the vampire diaries. so, uh, very likely that it’s going to be like october 2013 (and lbr, ever since) all over again, fair warning guys etc etc

Ughhh. I dunno, I am SO GLAD the brilliance that is the show is only  *loosely* based on the muddled, bullshit mess that is the books.

elanormcinerney:

this pic of clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead's reaction is also a very accurate representation of how I am FEELING (thrilled) now that I am reading the vampire diaries. so, uh, very likely that it’s going to be like october 2013 (and lbr, ever since) all over again, fair warning guys etc etc

Ughhh. I dunno, I am SO GLAD the brilliance that is the show is only  *loosely* based on the muddled, bullshit mess that is the books.

Watched the first two episodes of Copper and, well, at least it has recurring sex worker characters? Even an underage worker whose character and motivations are painted in a bit more nuanced way than just “spoiled innocent.” But for now most of them just seem to get subsumed by being the heroes’ girlfriends, so we’ll see.

But hey, at least I got an opportunity to be happy I learned what “the panel game” was from reading I’ve Got To Make My Livin’: Black Women’s Sex Work In Turn of the Century Chicago by Cynthia M Blair.