Any sex worker artists interested in doing a Tits and Sass interview with Juniper Fleming about her project, Reclamation and (Dis)atonement, “which attempts to explore our relationship to female iconography and archetype within, and in conjunction to, the western cannon of painting”? Email me if you’re interested at simon.caty@gmail.com .

OOoo, Jon Hamm and Daniel Radcliffe doing Bulgakov, and it’s on Netflix! No one ever tells me about highly important things like this.

shttlkng:

marginalutilite:

Was it just me or was this episode’s Vampire Diaries’ paean to (time traveling to) the 90s just sublime? Damon drunkenly hip swaying to “Whatta Man” (god all those vampires are so damn queer) while making breakfast and the vampire killing villain of the week smiling wickedly…

IVE BEEN SO BUSY I HAVENT WATCHED IT YET OMG THIS SOUNDS INCREDIBLE

I knew I could count on you, shttlkng !

Only one week left to the fundraiser to offset funeral costs for murdered young Black strippers Thisha Ball and Angelia Mangum’s families! They’re at 11 K—help them reach their goal of 17K. I’m going to post to harm reduction communities on Twitter and Facebook again, plus I made this the first item again today on Tits and Sass’ Week In Links. Besides giving, think of how you can best promote this fundraiser!

marginalutilite:

Was it just me or was this episode’s Vampire Diaries’ paean to (time traveling to) the 90s just sublime? Damon drunkenly hip swaying to “Whatta Man” (god all those vampires are so damn queer) while making breakfast and the vampire killing villain of the week smiling wickedly as “Everybody Hurts” plays in the background (bc yup, it hurts to be incinerated by the sun sans daylight ring)…

(Of course Damon owns a Salt n’ Pepa CD.)

Really, no one wants to talk Vampire Diaries w/me? I’m hurt.

marginalutilite:

handful-ofdust:

marginalutilite:

_A Book of Tongues_ is everything I didn’t know I wanted in the fantasy genre: murderous period queers, one of whom is an informal sex worker from a family of sex workers (only he’d say “whores”). Hopeless slash fans take note.

Glad you liked it!;)

Total celebrity crush moment of the day…

Was it just me or was this episode’s Vampire Diaries’ paean to (time traveling to) the 90s just sublime? Damon drunkenly hip swaying to “Whatta Man” (god all those vampires are so damn queer) while making breakfast and the vampire killing villain of the week smiling wickedly as “Everybody Hurts” plays in the background (bc yup, it hurts to be incinerated by the sun sans daylight ring)…

(Of course Damon owns a Salt n’ Pepa CD.)

00goddess:

leighalanna:

persephonedanger:

marginalutilite:

theconceptofawoman:

despo4dogs:

so i’m reading the handmaiden’s tale and i would really like to know why noone who recommended margaret atwood to me mentioned how she’s kind of a radfem? these kinda things shit me heaps. like when people recommend books and don’t mention the wildly off shit the author was into, at least at the…

I haven’t read this book in a while but I’m struggling to remember what it is that might align her writing with radfems?

I had a quick google but would be super interested to hear your thoughts?

She writes one of her defiant women characters in the Handmaid’s Tale’s repressive misogynist dystopia ending up in a brothel for the leadership as her ultimate spiritual defeat and not as a clever survival strategy. Then again, that could just be her protagonist’s narrow minded viewpoint rather than Atwood’s herself, because I know she’s written some sex worker celebrating poetry, as well as having a migrant sex worker (who started underage) totally defuse and shame her boy lover when he makes the mistake of pitying her in _Oryx and Crake_. And then there’s the well written and not at all downtrodden stripper/brothel worker character in Oryx and Crake’s sequel. Or maybe her feminism evolved into being pro sex worker slowly, as The Handmaid’s Tale predates the Oryx and Crake books by quite a bit.

It’s been ages and ages since I read the Handmaid’s Tale, but didn’t that theocracy (initially, at least) gain power by collaborating with anti-porn feminists to pass censorship laws? 

I’m obviously biased here, but I didn’t read the Moira/Jezebel part of the story as being the most downtrodden bit either — Moira’s not fertile, iircc, and can’t be a handmaid or a wife, which are the only options that have even the possibility of long term, non-transported survival, so given that all solutions are temporary for her, she takes an option that allows her a modicum of personal freedom and the opportunity to at least clandestinely sexually connect with women, and thus be not wholly subsumed by the system. Did I overrosy it or misremember?

I think leighalanna has it right. Moira did not regard her place in the brothel as the ultimate spiritual defeat; Offred saw it as a spiritual defeat. Moira saw herself as making the best of a bad and ultimately fatal situation.

I think what we were seeing is that different women had different ways of coping with their own unique situations in Gilead. We are also seeing that even in Gilead, even knowing what Moira has been through, Offred is a judgernaut. She judges Moira negatively for choosing the brothel life (and eventual transportation and death) over immediate transportation and death. How is this different from the way that Fred’s wife judges Offred?

Not everyone is a revolutionary. Or, not everyone remains a revolutionary after they have been tortured.

However, Moira did not end up in the brothel as “a clever survival strategy.”  Moira does not expect to survive. She chose the brothel as a way of postponing what she saw as her inevitable demise at the hands of the patriarchal rulers of Gilead. Moira has done her part for the cause, she has suffered enough, and she’s making the best of the time she has left.

You’re probably right—I haven’t reread it since I was a teenager, and I spaced out the part where the brothel workers would eventually be killed, for one.

handful-ofdust:

marginalutilite:

_A Book of Tongues_ is everything I didn’t know I wanted in the fantasy genre: murderous period queers, one of whom is an informal sex worker from a family of sex workers (only he’d say “whores”). Hopeless slash fans take note.

Glad you liked it!;)

@handful-ofdust: If I’d known you were going to read this, I would’ve written a more eloquent encomium (errrr but not a tongue twister like that.)
"[M]ost of the time, the fight to end human trafficking is led by people who make no distinction between someone who is forced or coerced into the sex industry, someone who enters it by choice or curiosity, and the myriad scenarios in between the two. We saw a lot of this in the Toledo conference.

The best example might be the woman who, after finding out what Red Umbrella Project does, asked us, “But if your organization is made up of current and former sex workers, how do you keep the current ones from recruiting the former ones?” The member who she asked was floored as he tried to explain that that has never been a problem. How could you explain to someone with that view of sex work that no, our organization is not partially made up of unscrupulous hookers lurking around trying to sucker recovering trafficking victims back into a life of drug-addled degradation?"

— Red Umbrella Project’s Ariel Wolf in “So These Sex Workers Walk Into A Human Trafficking Conference: Red Umbrella Project at the Toledo International Human Trafficking Conference" at Tits and Sass today

galesofnovember said: I'm glad you are spending today debunking tumblr's new opposition to washing their assholes with soap. Wash your butts, children!

wulfmojo:

lasciel:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

thebeckiest:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

marginalutilite:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

I don’t feel like what i’m advocating is that crazy? I personally know a lot of people who could benefit from a nice warm washcloth with a little bit of soap squeezed on! And then just gently scrubbed. It’s not like baby wipes are just water! And if I know a bunch then I know there are others! :/

I’m just thinking about all the skidmarks I regularly encounter on my clients’ underwear. (And what is it with men over 40 and those aesthetically unfortunate tighty whities? Who thought white was a good color for underwear in the first place?)

Oh god! I never see their underwear and I’m SO GLAD!! I don’t even know how I would keep going, I’d be showering everyone, scrubbing everyone down like a Progressive hygienist of yore.

And white, idk! I feel like it comes from white being seen as clean, and also the cost effectiveness of using undyed fabric? Hmm idk! Now I want to know.

I’m going to guess it’s for the same reason baby clothes/diapers all used to be all white: to facilitate bleach as a quick and easy stain remover.

Wait is this like how they started tying to facilitate crisco’s use as a whatyacallit? Was bleach not generally used prior did the mass production of white underwear begin in tandem?

I mean generally historically speaking one used white or undyed fabric for whatever underwear was at that point in time (specifically, whatever you wore right next to skin, like the chemise, shirt, or shift; also pantalettes. Sadly my male underwear knowledge lapses a bit in the late 19th/early to mid 20th century so i can only offer logical guesses?).  Sometimes this was so you could bleach it, but mostly because until chemists invented aniline dyes, dyed cloth was not only more labor-intensive to produce (thus, yes, expensive) BUT it would not stand up to being washed harshly or in hot (sterilising!) water very well.  So white underwear has a hell of a lot of inertia behind it, add in the convenience of just bleaching the hell out of stains, and it’s kind of inevitable that white winds up as “default” for underwear. 

</textile nerd>

"Sadly my male underwear knowledge lapses a bit in the late 19th/early to mid 20th century"

To me this just conjures up an image of someone with a time machine going back to sex lots of men from different decades, but by the time they got to the late 19th century they had gotten bored and instead decided “dinosaurs”.

This thread just keeps getting better.

theconceptofawoman:

despo4dogs:

so i’m reading the handmaiden’s tale and i would really like to know why noone who recommended margaret atwood to me mentioned how she’s kind of a radfem? these kinda things shit me heaps. like when people recommend books and don’t mention the wildly off shit the author was into, at least at the…

I haven’t read this book in a while but I’m struggling to remember what it is that might align her writing with radfems?

I had a quick google but would be super interested to hear your thoughts?

She writes one of her defiant women characters in the Handmaid’s Tale’s repressive misogynist dystopia ending up in a brothel for the leadership as her ultimate spiritual defeat and not as a clever survival strategy. Then again, that could just be her protagonist’s narrow minded viewpoint rather than Atwood’s herself, because I know she’s written some sex worker celebrating poetry, as well as having a migrant sex worker (who started underage) totally defuse and shame her boy lover when he makes the mistake of pitying her in _Oryx and Crake_. And then there’s the well written and not at all downtrodden stripper/brothel worker character in Oryx and Crake’s sequel. Or maybe her feminism evolved into being pro sex worker slowly, as The Handmaid’s Tale predates the Oryx and Crake books by quite a bit.

galesofnovember said: I'm glad you are spending today debunking tumblr's new opposition to washing their assholes with soap. Wash your butts, children!

minim-calibre:

lyrangalia:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

lyrangalia:

marginalutilite:

lasciel:

marginalutilite:

marginalutilite:

lasciel:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

thebeckiest:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

marginalutilite:

clarawebbwillcutoffyourhead:

I don’t feel like what i’m advocating is that crazy? I personally know a lot of people who could benefit from a nice warm washcloth with a little bit of soap squeezed on! And then just gently scrubbed. It’s not like baby wipes are just water! And if I know a bunch then I know there are others! :/

I’m just thinking about all the skidmarks I regularly encounter on my clients’ underwear. (And what is it with men over 40 and those aesthetically unfortunate tighty whities? Who thought white was a good color for underwear in the first place?)

Oh god! I never see their underwear and I’m SO GLAD!! I don’t even know how I would keep going, I’d be showering everyone, scrubbing everyone down like a Progressive hygienist of yore.

And white, idk! I feel like it comes from white being seen as clean, and also the cost effectiveness of using undyed fabric? Hmm idk! Now I want to know.

I’m going to guess it’s for the same reason baby clothes/diapers all used to be all white: to facilitate bleach as a quick and easy stain remover.

Wait is this like how they started tying to facilitate crisco’s use as a whatyacallit? Was bleach not generally used prior did the mass production of white underwear begin in tandem?

I mean generally historically speaking one used white or undyed fabric for whatever underwear was at that point in time (specifically, whatever you wore right next to skin, like the chemise, shirt, or shift; also pantalettes. Sadly my male underwear knowledge lapses a bit in the late 19th/early to mid 20th century so i can only offer logical guesses?).  Sometimes this was so you could bleach it, but mostly because until chemists invented aniline dyes, dyed cloth was not only more labor-intensive to produce (thus, yes, expensive) BUT it would not stand up to being washed harshly or in hot (sterilising!) water very well.  So white underwear has a hell of a lot of inertia behind it, add in the convenience of just bleaching the hell out of stains, and it’s kind of inevitable that white winds up as “default” for underwear. 

</textile nerd>

Ah, the educated insight of tumblr denizens on the most arbitrary topics will never fail to endear itself to me.

lasciel: Still, I thought that by the 50s, at least, dyed cloth and prints were being mass produced cheaply? So that doesn’t really explain the Baby Boomer men I see.

True!  This is where I lament my truly inexcusable lack of knowledge of men’s underwear during the 20th century!!!!   But basically: Yes, dyed underwear could have caught on then, but it had always been white, white was easy to bleach, and there would be no practical reason to change (for men).  I am guessing (at this point it is wild-ass conjecture) that there might also be an undercurrent of “non-white underwear is something women wear to look sexy, you are a man and therefore have no reason to look sexy.” going on?  I dunno :/

and now this bothers me and i feel like I must research it aaaagh. 

The plot thickens.

The discussion of dyed/undyed underwear is really fascinating but I’m still sort of stuck on people on Tumblr not wanting to wash their butts with soap.

Like… what? Is there context? I am somewhere between intrigued and horrified.

The context is that image post of the guy who washed his butt with an exfoliator or dial soap and his friend, a girl, saying you aren’t supposed to and that it’s stressful being friends with boys.

Which! The implications still baffle me like he waited most of his life before trying to wash his butt with soap (or exfoliant?!) and then—? She has never washed her butt with soap?

I mean I’m not saying do a colonic with an antibacterial soap just you know, make sure you cleanse your butt crack now and then. It’s a nice thing to do!

Especially since as Caty points out men produce most of the skid marks happening in the underwear of people over 7.

Okay wow thank you for the context! Also sort of glad that I didn’t know what the context was to begin with because I guess I hang out on the pro-buttwashing parts of Tumblr?

Yay?

It honestly alarms me that Tumblr can be divided up that way.

lectal:

catsuitmonarchy:

marginalutilite:

catsuitmonarchy:

I’m watching American Horror Story: Freak Show and it has a male sex worker** with a disability. Which is really not common in pop culture. And the fact that it seems to be something Jimmy is doing on his own (which means making the money for himself) and something he is actively enjoying is even…

catsuitmonarchy
 : Naw, it definitely seemed like he was doing it for cash—I believe there was a transaction with one of the women acting as a go between for the other before she met with Jimmy. Plus, it was made clear he was feeling a lot of financial insecurity about Elsa’s venture before that scene, so I think they firmly established that as his motivation. And finally, c’mon, didn’t his all leather get up in the first scene just scream hustler?

I have this habit of watch American Horror Story with only 80% of my brain so I often miss important shots. That woman did seem like an organizer/go between. With talking about how ‘it’s your turn’.
AND OH GOD THE LEATHER OUTFIT.

iirc he also mentions later that he didn’t charge one of them because she came so fast he felt bad

That’s right, he does! Damn, how did I forget that—I just saw the episode yesterday.

I do think it’s a bit of a cheat to show men sex workers seeing women clients, given what a tiny part of the market for male sex workers that is, though I do get the impression anecdotally that it may have been a bit more common in certain circles in the 50s, 60s, and 70s. I actually have a client who moonlighted as a gigolo for a small client list of wealthy Boston women in the 70s. I find his story believable despite my initial doubts for a number of reason—for one because he says his agent only found him calls about twice a month.